Social-media and advertising have made us susceptible to low self-esteem, especially as related to physical appearance. However, those of us who experienced trauma are at an increased risk of being impacted due to shame. Shame is the belief that deep down, we are unworthy, unlovable, and broken. Some traumatized people focus on physical appearance to gain love and recognition, but can never truly be happy with their looks. Some engage in people pleasing behaviors that can increase their risk of being in toxic relationships, engaging in dangerous situations, and compromising wellbeing. In therapy, we learn to develop self-love so that we don't risk our safety to find love from others. Some of us will learn how to "reparent" ourselves, to provide that love and validation we never received as children. Developing awareness to our inner voice, we can change the shameful narrative to hopeful ones, and become our own best friend. One who supports, encourages, and loves us for who we are, rather than what others expect us to be.